i don't*need* anything more than I need, but i'm not settling for any less than what I want.....and its complicated that way!
Over conversation with friends after a magnificent laksa lunch (cooked by yours truly ....alright, its not quite that magnificent, but its good enough :P), we dwell into the topic being a "freestyle" individual. According to my non-asian sista, Missy L, "freestyle" refers to a person that likes her own individuality, the kind that would still want to exist as a person on her own within a relationship, and not to be know as someone's girlfriend.
I like the idea. The idea that I can still be my own, and have someone there for me (and me for my currenty non-existent other half), but without the restraint of having to go through things like "Oh, I can't join your girls for movie tonight, because the Boyfriend wants to have dinner together with his mates...." or "I'm not wearing pink , because the Boyfriend don't like pink...." or to bring this to another level "I'm having laser hair removal because he like smooth and hair free legs.........or whatever other part of his preference ...*wink*".....
What happened to what the "you" want ? Is that no longer important , because you don't exist as an individual anymore? What about mutual respect of each other's preference ? Will he change his support for a certain football team, if you don't like the official color of the football club ? and etc....
The ability to travel anywhere without one another...............well, i have to admit that'll be hard if you guys head out for a honeymoon....lol...but , yea...on a trip together, isn't it alright to head out to a winery on your own because you'll love to, and he go for a sporting event that he wanted to attend ?? And adjourned for the night for a nice quiet dinner together ?
I supposed, its easy to imagine how easy it'll be, but difficult to make it work in life.......
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